Coach Joi 
Did you get married thinking the man you loved would care for you, treat you right and fair, build a life with you where you would navigate life together? Was there a rude awakening to that dream where you soon discovered you were married to the king in his counting house and everything that came … Read more
If you missed the latest Live on Instagram, this recap on the so-called “therapeutic facilitated disclosure” nightmare, may be of interest to you. Warning Statement If you have participated in a “Therapeutic Facilitated Disclosure” that was successful, please do not shoot the messenger. We have worked in this field for decades. We’ve watched the trends … Read more
Why this isn’t narcissism or toxic relational behavior If you have been a client or follower of Center for Peace for any time, you may be familiar with the term “Targeted Partner Abuse©” to refer to the experience wives have with men who use coercive control or power-over type behaviors in the marriage. If not, … Read more
When women are abused by the person who promised to love, cherish, care and provide for them, there will never be justice for that wife in this life. Even if their husband makes a complete turnaround. The sexual betrayal, the multiple targeted abusive actions©, and the damage also inflicted on other relationships make this a … Read more
A Huge Price with Severe Damage The topic of porn use has been explored by countless authors, physicians, scientists and social media influencers for decades now. Multiple camps continue to battle for center stage on the soapbox of this discussion. All of those with access to the mic want their voice heard above the clamor … Read more
Are you Prepared to do your Part of the Forgiveness Process? Many women have been pressured by their abusive husband, family and clergy to forgive, forget and move on as though the impacts of abuse can be put in the past by a practice of forgiveness. These women are often still in the throes of … Read more
The Harmful Phrases that Keep Being Said Of all the platforms or soapboxes I’ve stood on over the decades of working in this field, victim blaming is by far the most important to me as an educator, therapist, coach, or as a human being walking alongside other human beings who are abused. A victim of … Read more
Do we understand the subtle and insidiousness of this behavior? This past week on Instagram Live we opened the discussion of coercive control. In this week’s blog post, we’ll unpack this with more depth to really understand the behavior and how it can be seen in the greater understanding of domestic abuse. Domestic Abuse Laws … Read more
In our last post we discussed Infidelity Abuse from a spiritual lens. In this follow up post, we will continue our processing from a costs-based perspective. As I did last time, there will be a spiritual component to this post alongside neurobiology. Turning the Hearts In the Old Testament the promise of Malachi speaks of … Read more
Acknowledging All the Pain As a social scientist and human behaviorist, I don’t often write blogs from a faith-based perspective, but it feels like the right time to address this topic in this light. I am not going to mince words as I write this post. If a more spiritual topic is not right for … Read more
