Coach Joi 
“Targeted Partner Abuse©” is a unique type of human interaction. It happens in private, behind closed doors. It is often so covert that even those who have access to some of the internal workings of the family or marriage relationships do not see the nuanced abuse. Abuse is like that. In our social world we … Read more
This is more than an inability to heal or move forward Occasionally, it is important to stop and evaluate what is being said in other corners of the so-called ‘recovery’ world, where terms like addiction, struggling, tempted, lust, etc., permeate the culture of what is abusive betrayal of a primary intimate partner. As happens when … Read more
How to understand the lack of fairness and justice for victims of abuse The idea of the ‘Just-World Fallacy’ stems from a belief that the world is generally good and fair, and people get what they deserve. This belief holds that actions have consequences in alignment with ethics and morality. Thus, when bad things happen, … Read more
More on how language contributes to victim pathologizing? Decades ago, when all we had were wives’ groups from the various AA, NA, SA recovery programs, wives of men who use ‘Targeted Partner Abuse©’ attended those groups so that we had a place where we could talk to other women who understood what we were going … Read more
The Correct Way to View our Human Interactions in Adverse Settings Victims Respond to Abuse/Violence No matter the issue, situation, or context, all human beings respond in one way or another to violence and abuse. That may be going small and quiet, or it may be fighting back physically depending on the context. Human beings … Read more
How faulty theories impact you and your well-being How often do you listen to a podcast, read books, or stumble across that perfect social media post that describes a condition that resonates with what you are going through? Many of us are searching for the answers. Social media has become “the authority for life.” It … Read more
How would this change all of the psychological theories we believe? What if I told you that most of the information we learn in our psych classes or read online when we are attempting to create social media content for our coaching clients is wrong? What if you woke up one day thinking your brain … Read more
Unpacking the Stockholm Syndrome Myth For some reason lately, my social media feed has filled up with a considerable amount of posts on ‘Stockholm Syndrome’. Even though this term has been debunked several times by several authorities close to the case where this paleologistic reference was crafted. I just read a story on a pretty-popular … Read more
The Main Tactics of Men Targeting Abuse of Their Intimate Partner In the early days of dissecting the elements of abuse and coercive control into the model most abuse specialists use today, we ran into a lot of pushback with the language, labels, and behaviors. As you are likely aware, most men refuse to accept … Read more
Acting Against the Agency and Freedoms of The Targeted Victim Experts in the field of Coercive Control refer to this behavior targeted on women by men as a crime against the freedoms of those women (Stark, 2007). The patterns of abuse targeted on the wife trespass upon rights and freedoms that all human beings expect … Read more
