Coach Joi 
How often have you had conversations with your husband hoping to get him to understand how you feel? How often did you feel dismissed in those conversations? Did he tell you he didn’t want to argue or fight with you? Did he say something about your past trauma? Regardless of what your husband said regarding … Read more
Myths and Facts Center for Peace is a life changing experience that is different from any other program. Over the years this program has helped countless clients learn to live a life of peace and safety. Leading this endeavor, it is not surprising to encounter a lot of resistance when the theories are not what … Read more
Correcting the Victim Blaming Terminology Moving away from terminology fostered in the addiction recovery community is the only way we will be able to establish truth and find peace in our lives as abused women. Correct terminology is critical for professionals in this field. Wives of abusive men deserve the truth. Abusers need to hear … Read more
Have you ever heard your husband say he just needs to be patient until you get past the trauma? What about all of the magnanimous gestures he makes to “help you heal” as though he’s been given some rescuer assignment to get you past the trauma? I ask these questions in all seriousness (though I … Read more
Have you been told you need to forgive, or worse, accused of not being forgiving enough? It is almost as if there is a demanded expectation for wives to forgive abusive husbands of their egregious behaviors. Where does all of this come from? It isn’t just from the men who have a faith tradition. Nearly … Read more
If you live with a man who is constantly pushing his “I’m a good man” narrative — and you’ve about had it — you’ll want to read this post. Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet … Read more
How many times have you asked your spouse why? Why did you do that? Why her? Why prostitutes? Why do you keep taking money from our family to do these horrible things? Why do you keep hurting me? We tend to ask a lot of why questions when we are trying to get to the … Read more
Disconnecting our psychology from our spiritual epistemology subjects us to serious mental health conditions There is unprecedented mental anguish in the world today. Depression, anxiety, and substance abuse have reached epidemic proportions globally. The WHO reports that 264 million people on the planet are depressed. Depression is the third most costly disability worldwide. Each year, … Read more
Understanding the Dynamics of Abuse in Relationships All Abuse Is Calculated and Unilateral If men know that women are not attracted to abusers – and they do – then the only way men can effectively perpetrate abuse is to conceal the language they use to remove responsibility for their behavior. The best approach to concealing … Read more
Dignity Defined Webster (1828) defines dignity as true honor, nobleness, and elevation of mind with an abhorrence of mean and sinful actions. It is based on a moral rectitude, that when lived in light and truth, provides dignity to the soul. It is within these terms the tenets of the Center for Peace tenets are … Read more
