Coach Joi 
They Want you to Think it is Your Fault The advocates of the intimate partner abuse movement have, from the inception, attempted to persuade the social mind to understand the violence that occurs in what is commonly referenced as ‘domestic violence’ is not the fault of the victim. These advocates have used anti-patriarchy, equal protection … Read more
Counter Language to Even the Playing Field of a Gender Divisive Phenomenon In this week’s edition we are tackling a topic that has the potential to push buttons. We encourage you to stay the course as we hope to respectfully address an issue we see playing out on the social media stage and in pop-psychology … Read more
A White Paper Presented by Center for Peace, LLC Coach Joi, MAAC, BSMF, DVS, CAS, APSATS CPC, BCC, FLC, CRBP, CSMF Center for Peace, (CFP, LLC), 2026 In this week’s post, Center for Peace presents a White Paper on Objectification and Lust as Gender-based Violence Against Women (CFP, 2026). This paper addresses the highly charged … Read more
Why Some Processes for Healing are Harmful, not Helpful. In last week’s edition on healing, we made the following comment, “Memory and pain are not in the body, or the nervous system” (Coach Joi) This week, we’ll address this more thoroughly to hopefully set straight some of the confusion that occurs when we use social … Read more
A different Perspective on Moving Forward Over the years, we’ve talked about and written on the topic of healing from multiple perspectives. We continue this conversation that we might be able to hold this construct better as we strive to find safety and security in some of the most difficult personal experiences a human endures. … Read more
If you follow the big names on social media talking about abuse, using any of the common terms used currently, you’ve likely heard a lot about coercive control being about a power or control behavior by the perpetrating husband over the wife. While this can be one of the presentations, there are many other variables, … Read more
Comparing the United States to Other Countries We’ve known for years that our legal system is not set up to protect victims of abuse and coercive control. In fact, there are so many issues in the legal arena women continue to face, despite the prevalence of this behavior. Unfortunately, in other countries, they are doing … Read more
You might not want to read a post about the new year or success yet. You might still be soaking in the holidays or trying to dig yourself out from underneath Christmas. This is the week when we eat what we want, don’t check the time, and try to stay in our pjs as much … Read more
A discussion to help navigate boundaries, rules, and expectations. It can become exhausting to keep up the pace and the back and forth when dealing with an abuser. Whether you are still in the marriage, under the same roof, or not. Divorced or separated, we need to make sure we are not extending more effort … Read more
When there is no place for your voice Many women experience a type of abuse that centers around the proverbial ‘communication problem’. In these marriages, there may or may not be the other elements of power and control where abuse involves financial control, parenting control, personal autonomy issues, or sexual betrayal. What is present is … Read more
