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Acting Against the Agency and Freedoms of The Targeted Victim Experts in the field of Coercive Control refer to this behavior targeted on women by men as a crime against the freedoms of those women (Stark, 2007). The patterns of abuse targeted on the wife trespass upon rights and freedoms that all human beings expect … Read more
“Semantic Abuse” You know an issue is important when we develop multiple terms for the same problem. In the field of “Targeted Partner Abuse©” or Coercive Control, this is particularly applicable. We have so many terms for abuse and the various abusive actions executed by men who target abuse on their spouse. In this week’s … Read more
You are all likely aware of the Power and Control Wheels (Pence & Paymar 1983) that shifted the trajectory of the field of domestic violence. Initially these wheels were meant to visually represent patterns of male batterers towards their intimate partner. As valuable as these tools are, they have become siloed in the domestic abuse/violence … Read more
I have not taken the opportunity to write a blog on the topic of betrayal. There are many reasons for not getting into this topic, not the least of which is the over-use of the word, which waters down, and blames victims. So, today – here goes. Describing a Husband’s Betrayal There are a lot … Read more
A Discussion on Privilege Thinking Errors This topic may generate some heat, but if you’ll bear with me for a bit, I’ll try to make a valid point with the title of this post. “I Deserve or Just-world” Fallacy I’ve cogitated on this topic for some time due to the number of discussions I have … Read more
According to Google, the term “holding space” was popularized by Donald Winnicott in 1960. It gained traction when Heather Plett used the term in a blog post sometime in 2015. We all chuckle at the phrase now thanks to the bit from Wicked. In the clinical field, we speak about holding space as a process … Read more
Happy New Year from Center for Peace! As we step into this fresh, new year, I want to take a moment to send you a message of hope, positivity, and inspiration. The start of a new year is always a powerful time—a chance to reset, renew, and realign with the vision we have for our … Read more
More on Why Words Matter At Center for Peace, you often hear us say, “Speak your truth” or “Honor your story” because how you describe your experience matters. This is important when we are talking about abuse and betrayal, or any other life experience. Every human being’s telling of their experience is known in the … Read more
Wishing You Peace this Holiday and Safety in the New Year This time of year can be filled with both difficult and wonderful memories. Maybe they are from your childhood experiences or from living with someone who abused and sabotaged holidays. Is your story about how hard you worked to pull off the holidays only … Read more
Breaking down the myths on the terms used to blame victims It is not uncommon for beliefs to take deep root in our social stories to the point that these ideas become difficult to rectify. For example, it was long believed the Earth is the center of the universe and all celestial bodies orbit around … Read more
