A Christmas Message

Wishing You Peace this Holiday and Safety in the New Year

This time of year can be filled with both difficult and wonderful memories. Maybe they are from your childhood experiences or from living with someone who abused and sabotaged holidays. 

Is your story about how hard you worked to pull off the holidays only to have them wrecked by the demands of your abusive spouse?

Or did you spend years trying to keep your family and marriage together only to have to share holidays with an ex-husband?

Are the children grown and gone and you are spending some of the holidays alone and you’re working to build new traditions for yourself?

Have you lost someone special making holidays hard – even though you try to remember all the good times you had with that special person?

No matter the challenges you face during the holidays, we want you to know we see and hear you.

We know how hard you work.

We know how difficult it is to always do the right thing when there are stories being told about you that are untrue.

We know about the collusion with the kids.

We know about the job you need to get now or the home you lost.

We know about the caustic words he spews at you in private and how he pretends to care in public — or maybe he doesn’t even do that anymore.

We know you’ve spent hours in therapy and groups trying to put the pieces of your life back together or to figure out how to manage life with an abusive spouse.

We know you’ve done all you can to work with him and he just won’t do the work.

We know how much it hurts to see him with a new wife or to see him move on with life like he’s lost nothing in the divorce or separation.

We know and we feel with you all the pain and sadness.

We also know that no matter what decision all of this and so much more may bring you to — we know how amazing you are. If you have not figured that out yet, please hold on to our words and to the hope that we have for you as you learn to fly.

Let us help you step into 2025 with plans to have better safety and more peace. We can help you chart an academic or career path, or continue to navigate what “Targeted Partner Abuse©” means in your life.

We are here for you.

We thank you for your support and wish everyone a beautiful holiday.

Let’s make 2025 an amazing year!